On June 22nd I turned twenty-five. I can hardly believe it. I remember feeling like I was never going to be old enough to drive, live on my own, or get over that broken heart. But here I am, twenty-five and blessed in more ways than I can count. As I reflect on my life thus far, I found myself thinking about the lessons I’ve learned. So here they are – 25 lessons i’ve learned, 25 things I wish I could have told myself at 10, 13, 17, 21. In no particular order…
- There’s nothing more valuable than people who know your value.
- Choose to be joyful, everyday. The only person or circumstance that has the ability to bring you down is YOU.
- Don’t over think things. Not everything makes sense, let it be.
- Spend time by yourself, rest & recharge.
- If you’re too big to serve, you’re too small to lead.
- People enjoy people who make them feel important and appreciated, very few people will go the extra mile to make someone feel special. Be that person.
- There’s nothing more powerful than a person with power that doesn’t act like it.
- You can be at peace in EVERY situation if only you’d pray.
- On any given day, you can walk out the door and everything can change.
- There will be people who are more talented than you, but there is never a reason someone should work harder than you.
- If you can’t completely be yourself in a relationship…RUN. It doesn’t mean that either person is wrong, you just aren’t right for each other.
- ALWAYS appreciate the little things (the sound of crickets outside on a summer night or your dad’s truck pulling in the driveway, family cookouts, late night talks with roommates, bonfires, afternoon drives down back roads, laughing with friends who just get you, unexpected phone calls, growing up in the country).
- The best way to find joy is to serve people with no expectation of anything in return.
- Time does heal a broken heart, but so does deciding to let go.
- Don’t apologize for or regret being exactly who you are.
- Choose to praise people for what they are doing right, instead of criticizing them for what they’re doing wrong. Chances are they already know their downfalls.
- Be kind, always. It’s rare.
- Sometimes the most powerful argument is silence.
- “The grass is greener where you water it.”
- Surround yourself with people that you look up to, but don’t forget that someone is looking up to you too.
- Life is short, buy the outfit.
- Embrace where you came from, it’ll define who you are.
- Be the friend that people can count on no matter what.
- Give grace – even when you don’t feel like it.
- Things turn out best for those who make the best of the way things turn out.
I don’t know what lessons the next 25 years will bring, but I’ll be sure to take these with me along the way. I hope you’ll take a few of these with you too. Live life to the fullest and choose joy.